It used to be difficult to get a divorce; now, simply saying you have “irreconcilable differences” is enough. Have you ever wondered what differences are so irreconcilable that the 40-year togetherness of Al and Tipper Gore, for example, is kaput?
If you're recovering from a divorce, there’s no one right time to begin dating again. However, as the saying goes, it helps to get back on the horse. Since dating is not a romantic fairy tale, the trick is to consider each date an educational experience.
When we look at the divorce rate, and people who stay together even though miserable, we might conclude that people go out of their way to wreck their relationships. It can be helpful to look at the ways we often harm each other without even trying.
When I became single in my early 50s, I thought dating and finding a replacement mate was going to be a snap. However, I found out quickly that it was going to be difficult and I had to learn how to play the dating game all over again.